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Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: gunug on May 28, 2008, 07:58:17 AM: She had her surgery yesterday (bilateral mastectomy) and came through it okay except for elevated blood sugar which left her shut up in recovery for a couple extra hours. She was out of my sight for 7 hours but I don't know how much of that was actually the surgery. We won't know about the spread of the cancer from the biopsies (sp?) they took until next monday at least. I've got to get stirred around and get back over to the hospital!
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: jwboyd on May 28, 2008, 08:26:15 AM: We all wish her well.

Joe
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Post by: Paddy on May 28, 2008, 10:06:48 AM: Give her our best wishes for a speedy recovery, John, and we all hope that the biopsies come back ok!
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Post by: Frances144 on May 28, 2008, 10:36:02 AM: I am thinking about you both.

Be strong!

Love
Francesx
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Post by: krissel on May 28, 2008, 11:27:12 AM: You both are in our thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself, she will be needing you.
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Post by: kimmer on May 28, 2008, 11:29:16 AM: Best wishes for a quick recovery, and for good results from the biopsies.
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: Gregg on May 28, 2008, 12:04:40 PM: John, I had been thinking about her, and you of course. I will continue to keep you in my prayers. I'm sure it is a stressful time for both of you. I hope it does you some good to continue being an active part of our modest community.
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Post by: Xairbusdriver on May 28, 2008, 12:12:59 PM: Me two!

My prayers will include you both. Also that you will find this time of uncertainty to be a time to grow closer and more loving, with your wife and your children!
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Post by: chriskleeman on May 28, 2008, 01:11:48 PM: I'd like to add my voice to the rest of the Chorus here, John.

My best wishes and thoughts for both of you through what must be a very difficult time for your family.

Here's wishing for a speedy and cancer-free recovery!!!

All the best,

Chris K
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: gunug on May 29, 2008, 04:10:12 AM: Up right now with stuffy nose, acid reflux, and I admit, a bad case of missing her! They're supposed to kick her loose later this morning if everything's on the up and up with her! This is not an easy surgery to watch a loved one go through but I went into it with her with open eyes and kept telling her I wanted her to do whatever it took to have the best chance of survival! I thank you all for the thoughts and prayers; guess that was what I was looking for!
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Post by: Highmac on May 29, 2008, 04:29:12 AM: Like ChrisK I'm joining the chorus of good wishes - this is a caring forum and I'm sure many who don't post are thinking of you both. There are situations where sometimes it's almost impossible to know what to say.
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Post by: dolphin on May 29, 2008, 10:04:55 AM: John...I'd like to add my best wishes for a speedy recovery and the best of news on the biopsies. I too shall keep you and your wife and your children in my prayers. TS is such a wonderful extended family isn't it!
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Post by: Xairbusdriver on May 29, 2008, 03:47:33 PM: From past experience (is there some other kind?! ), I've found the quickest way to get my wife up and going again, is to make all the meals for her.
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Post by: Frances144 on May 29, 2008, 04:31:26 PM: Gunug,

If your wife craves something edible and mailable from Britain, let me know and I will see if I can find it in a Shetland supermarket.

Marmite? Gingernuts?

Let me know

Love to both
Fx
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Post by: Xairbusdriver on May 30, 2008, 01:44:41 PM: Hobnobs!
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: gunug on May 30, 2008, 07:24:22 PM: Frances - I would feel like I was imposing and I'm not sure what she'd like anyway.

XABD - I looked up Hobnobs and it seems like it's a whole family of things! Which one is your particular passion?
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Post by: Xairbusdriver on May 30, 2008, 10:08:54 PM: The Oat & Wheat variety, just plain biscuits, come in a roll with about 25 in it. They are quite sweet. But you are correct, there are several different types. And we can actually get them at a mall about 2 miles from the house, so no need for Frances to make any efforts on my part! They came in handy when driving around England, Scotland, Ireland! A few Hobnobs, some peanut butter, a bottle of water and an apple; what more could one want for a "meal on wheels?" It's safer to eat and drive, if you park, you may forget which side of the road to enter! Oops! "Mind the lorry!"
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: kcourt on June 03, 2008, 02:31:56 PM: Gunug,

I hope your wife has a speedy recovery. I am a 27 year survivor of breast cancer - there are many of us who make it, and today there is so much better treatment than when I had it in 1981.

I will pray for you both - it is a stressful time but she can look forward to a long life ahead.

Hugs,

Kathy
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: gunug on June 07, 2008, 06:42:49 AM: We've gone to the Oncologist and the "new" radiation therapy guy and it's been left up to us about the radiation:

- 20 % chance of a recurrence of cancer without radiation treatment

- 7% chance of recurrence with it

- She may never have anywhere near the mobility in that arm if she has it

- She might be more likely to get lymphedema and probably mess up her chances of successful reconstruction

Both those docs we've seen are pro-radiation and I can understand the statistics but this is my wife and it isn't that easy!
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: Frances144 on June 07, 2008, 10:19:44 AM: Damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

Horrible choices. I don't envy you.

Communication and information are the key, as I am sure you already know.

My thoughts are with you both.

Fx
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Post by: Shades of Gray on June 07, 2008, 10:35:48 AM: Continuing to pray for her and you.

Is she at KU Med Center?
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Post by: kimmer on June 07, 2008, 12:01:56 PM: We are continuing to pray for you both, gunug.
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Post by: Gregg on June 07, 2008, 12:54:26 PM: We all hope it turns out the best for her, no matter what decision is made.
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: Xairbusdriver on June 07, 2008, 02:17:47 PM: Still praying for comfort, acceptance, understanding and wisdom for you both. Wouldn't hurt to have a lot of the same for the doctors and support staff.
Title: My wife, for those who are interested!
Post by: dolphin on June 08, 2008, 06:31:13 AM: Prayer is a powerful thing...and I am still praying for you both!!!
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Post by: chriskleeman on June 08, 2008, 10:18:43 AM: And here in this little corner of the world, you both are in my thoughts and prayers too!

Chris K
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Post by: kcourt on June 09, 2008, 06:34:58 PM: Gunug,

I know the decisions sometimes are hard, but prayer does work wonders.

For your info, I do have lymphedema, got it ten years after the surgery. It has not held me down - I go to exercise class every day and have full use of my arm. The only thing I don't do is lift heavy things or plant roses or other plants that might have thorns.

Hope all goes well for you and your beloved!

Kathy
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Post by: jcarter on June 15, 2008, 06:46:57 AM: Good luck to you both!
I will say that both my mom and her sister were long term breast cancer survivors, one lived to 93 and the other to 96. My aunt took something called Tamoxifen, and that might have had something to do with it. Though at 84 she survived colon cancer.
Neither of them did the radiation treatment.
So in this day of medical research, we all have a much better chance of living to our 90s.
Jane