First, there is no need to delete or move the plist files that affect Safari, unless you can determine if they are causing the problem. One way to tell if the plist files are correct is to simply make a change in some preference setting for the app (Safari, in this case). Then, Quit Safari. Now, restart Safari and see if the change(s) are still in effect. You can also check the "com.apple.Safari.plist" file and note the date of its last change. Obviously, it should be exactly the time you made the change(s). By doing this, you at least know that the app is capable of writing the plist file. You can then make a decision on moving the file into another place and forcing the app to create a new version of it. But you still have no reason to actually delete it.
Now, where is that plist file located?
Sorry,
Buck, but either your System Directories are terribly screwed up or you are still not looking in your home/login account Preference folder.
Here's a screen shot showing how I would get to see some of the files you have in the list in your post #1 & 4:
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In order to see your Safari plist files, you need to look in your "
user" accounts directory. Here is how I would see mine:
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The names of your home/user account will probably not be "xairbusdriver," of course.
And your Mac and its hard drive names will not be as you see here, either.
Every user/account holder on your Mac has her own user files. One of those will be a set of preferences for all/any of the applications installed on your Mac and used by that person. Of course, you may not even have created any other users on your Mac. But there are still three separate "Library" folders/directories: The Root, the System and yours.